1. Intro
There's one simple way to restart a conversation with a girl you've been messaging back and forth with the lady you're interested in when the discussion either ends or she stops replying.
All you need to do is send her a text message, no conversation is required. (You can even use promo codes if you're on an app.)
She'll ask what your intentions are, and if they match hers, it will be easy to re-energize the conversation by asking her out again!
2. Some Common Texts Women Send After a Conversation Ends
A common thread I’ve seen in the first few years of my career has been a desire to start a conversation with a girl I’m interested in. This is a very sensitive topic (for me) and I want to make sure that I do it right.
This is not an exhaustive list, but we can offer some examples of texts you can write if you feel like your approach isn't working:
- “Hey, what did you think about last night?” - “How was it?” - “What are your plans for the weekend?” - “Have you thought about taking things slow in this relationship? We have been talking for weeks and nothing happened, but it seems like either we need to make things happen or we should stop talking. What do you think?”
These are just some examples of how to start a conversation with a girl who has said "no" and they're not giving up too easily. You'll want to find something that interests her and get her talking again so the process can continue.
3. When to Send a Text in the Direct Messages Section
In the last few posts, I’ve been talking about how we want to keep conversations happening in DMs. In this section, we’ll talk about when you should send a text in the course of that conversation. Send a text when:
• You want to close the conversation and start talking about something else. This is often when you should do it.
• You want to end the conversation but still have a follow-up message that's worth your attention. This is often when you shouldn't text her again (just because she's looking at you doesn't mean she wants more).
• You just haven't been able to think of anything interesting/conversational to say and prefer to wait until you have time later (or until there's something really important that needs her attention).
If someone has taken an active interest in your interaction with them, don't be afraid to try sending a text and see what happens! There's no reason for fear here. Focus on making sure your interaction is effective and engaging, not the content of what you send – if you're texting her after or before she responds or whatever, it doesn’t matter anyway – just make sure that you're doing it correctly and engaging with her properly. If you feel nervous about sending such a message, ask yourself if it would help if she was looking at something else; if not, do it! You can also ask yourself if there are things about your interaction that aren't working for her; if so, send a careful follow-up message first before any texts – this way you'll get some feedback back too!
4. When to Start a Text
The first time you start a text conversation with a girl, you should always leave it open. You don't want to feel guilty about hanging up. You don't want to have to put the phone down and get back to work or return to your friends. (Don't worry, though: Texting for an hour is still pretty safe.)
When you do hang up or have to turn off the phone, it's time for some gentle follow-up. Let her know that you're thinking about her and that she has meant a lot to you. Let her know that she's got your number and that she should give it a call (she's welcome to do so) — but be careful not to sound too eager at this point; if you're delivering too much pressure, she may start second-guessing whether she wants a relationship with you or not.
You might start by saying something like "I've been thinking of calling again." And then watch how she responds: If she starts getting defensive, move on quickly and say something like "Let me know what your plans are over break." Or if you talk about going out for coffee during the break ("Let me know how that goes!"), then move on quickly and say something like "Great! I'll see if I can fit us in sometime next week."
If all goes well here, check-in with the girl again before moving on — especially if the tone of your texts continues from where they left off; if she doesn't seem interested in continuing the conversation, this could be an indication that she's not interested in dating or maybe even just not interested in talking at all (it helps if someone else is also messaging her). If so, it's time for a break.
5. How to Ask for Her Number at the Right Time
How to Ask for Her Number at the Right Time
The process of getting a girl's number is not just something that happens once and never happens again so you can “get the girl”. It's a sequence of steps that happen repeatedly. The sequence should be:
1) Offer to buy her a drink or coffee and make sure it's not too expensive.
2) Ask her out on a date.
3) Take her out on a date.
4) Take her home after the date.
5) Spend quality time with her and let your guard down and enjoy what you have with her before getting back up to date again.
6. How to Get Her Number from Her
The number one reason that people stop talking to someone they like is due to a poor approach. There are many things to teach a girl how to be better at texting, and the best way to help her become better is by showing her how it can be done.
The first thing you should do if you haven’t already done so is learning the basics of texting. Don’t just write anything; create something meaningful for her by choosing your words wisely. Then make sure your texts have personality and purpose (just as you would with an actual conversation). The more personal and intentional your texts, the more likely she will respond in kind.
If this hasn’t happened yet, here are some relevant tips: 1) Introduce yourself, even if it’s simply as “Hey, I have a lot in common with you” 2) Ask questions about what she likes in terms of music or movies or sports 3) Ask a question that shows you care about what she says 4) Be sincere 5) Be succinct 6) If she responds to your texts, don’t reply immediately 7) Try again multiple times until you get the right message 8) When all else fails, take her out and show her how much fun it can be 9) Don't give up! Keep trying! 10) If all else fails, again and again, just keep sending texts until you get the right message Keep practicing this until it starts working for you You're still probably not close to perfect yet but if all else fails... don't give up Keep practicing this until it starts working for you You're still probably not close to perfect yet but if all else fails...don't give up
7. What to Say in Your First
The first conversation you have doesn’t have to be the last one. For example, if you’ve already been communicating with a woman and she responds to your initial message, don’t send another one right away.
If you know that it isn’t going to work out, don’t waste time creating new messages. Instead, send a second message and calmly follow up with what you want to say in the second message. How to Say It
Here are some suggestions for how you can use this technique:
• You can start off by asking for a phone number (even if she says she has none). Use this as an ice breaker that is meant to get her on the phone or at least set something up for later.
• You can start off by saying “It was nice talking with you…”. This will help establish a friendly tone of communication and let her know that you won’t be keeping in touch because of how things ended up.
• You can say “If I get the opportunity, I'd love to see you again…”. This will let her know that it wasn't just a bad date but also an opportunity and that if there is any way you can help them find someone else (beg or ask), they would appreciate it.
And now, here are some more general tips:
• Try not to use words like “I think…”, “I believe…”, and “I wish.....”. They are much too ambiguous — they aren't direct enough, so she won't understand what you're saying without interpretation from your words or tone of voice, or body language. If this is something that has been bothering you about these types of conversations, watch these videos on body language (especially 1) and 2) ) ) ). The tone of voice is everything when communicating with women; body language is everything when communicating with men—especially men who want women to call them out on their assumptions! The second video talks about other ways men communicate in conversation with women; the first video talks about ways women communicate in conversation with men!
